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Turkeys for the Fatherless

In Uncategorized on November 14, 2013 at 3:37 pm

Turkeys for the Fatherless

It’s time for The Fatherless Generation Foundation’s #TurkeysForTheFatherless!!

In providing our resources & services we know 60% of fatherless children grow up in poverty. And for this reason TFGF has provided Thanksgiving baskets for fatherless families for the last 2 years ensuring they will not go hungry during Thanksgiving. THIS YEAR WILL BE NO DIFFERENT! Our first year we successfully fed 55 fatherless families and last year we were blessed to fed 30 fatherless families. This year we have partnered with I Will Survive, Inc. setting a goal of feeding 120 fatherless families including 20 single mothers who are surviving cancer!

$40 feeds a family of 5 with a 15 lb Turkey, Fresh Collard Greens, Sweet Potatoes, Green Beans, White Potatoes, Rolls, and homemade Dessert! To raise $4800 it’s going to take 120 donors to give $40 each. The campaign is actually live NOW at http://www.tfgf.org/eventsprograms.html

It would mean THE WORLD to me if you gave your best donation so that 120 families will not go without Thanksgiving Dinner! Will you please donate now at at http://www.tfgf.org/eventsprograms.html

No More Tug-Of-War

In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on August 30, 2013 at 6:20 pm

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Tug-Of-War has been taking place since ancient Egypt and it used to be an Olympic Sport. But what is the purpose of Tug-Of-War? According to Webster’s Dictionary Tug-of- War is a struggle for supremacy or control usually involving two antagonists; adversaries, opponents, or contenders.

Where am I going with this? How do two parents play “Tug-Of-War” with their child? I know things can get pretty complicated when two people decide to go their separate ways. And it can truly become UGLY when children are involved. BUT… I am puzzled by the idea that one parent feels the need to usurp authority… control over the other  through force by becoming their adversary and using the child as the “rope” by which they accomplish their goal. Yeah. It happens. Way too often.

In working with fatherless children through The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. I have encountered all aspects of fatherlessness. And we often see a child having no access to their biological father because of the inability of one parent to let go of their issues in order to allow the other a fair chance to build their own relationship.

Have you ever seen an actual tug-of-war competition? It is a brutal game where the opponents can get rope burn or even worse.  Cbsnews.com says, “It may be a childhood game, but tug-of-war injuries can be serious and lead to permanent consequences.” So what happens when the “rope” you are using is your child? You find yourself wrapping your hands around them, tying knots, or entangle yourself to them in a very dysfunctional way to secure your grip. BUT… when you wrap your hands around, tie knots, or even entangle yourself, you place all at risk to lose a finger, hand, or even dislocate parts of their body.  YOU CREATE PERMANENT CONSEQUENCES FOR ALL INVOLVED!  Once the “rope” snaps, all are truly able to see the trauma inflicted upon it. Oh… and believe you me… the “rope” will eventually snap due to all of the tension being place upon it!

So why do this? The relationship is over. We get that. But is the life of your child worth so little you would use them as the tool by which you attempt to control and destroy another persons life? Think long and hard before you answer. Because it is easy to say “No. My child is worth everything to me.” Many even use their love for their children as their reason for playing this dangerous game of Tug-Of-War. But today is the day you begin to declare by your actions… “NO MORE TUG-OF-WAR!”