In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on August 30, 2013 at 6:20 pm
Tug-Of-War has been taking place since ancient Egypt and it used to be an Olympic Sport. But what is the purpose of Tug-Of-War? According to Webster’s Dictionary Tug-of- War is a struggle for supremacy or control usually involving two antagonists; adversaries, opponents, or contenders.
Where am I going with this? How do two parents play “Tug-Of-War” with their child? I know things can get pretty complicated when two people decide to go their separate ways. And it can truly become UGLY when children are involved. BUT… I am puzzled by the idea that one parent feels the need to usurp authority… control over the other through force by becoming their adversary and using the child as the “rope” by which they accomplish their goal. Yeah. It happens. Way too often.
In working with fatherless children through The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. I have encountered all aspects of fatherlessness. And we often see a child having no access to their biological father because of the inability of one parent to let go of their issues in order to allow the other a fair chance to build their own relationship.
Have you ever seen an actual tug-of-war competition? It is a brutal game where the opponents can get rope burn or even worse. Cbsnews.com says, “It may be a childhood game, but tug-of-war injuries can be serious and lead to permanent consequences.” So what happens when the “rope” you are using is your child? You find yourself wrapping your hands around them, tying knots, or entangle yourself to them in a very dysfunctional way to secure your grip. BUT… when you wrap your hands around, tie knots, or even entangle yourself, you place all at risk to lose a finger, hand, or even dislocate parts of their body. YOU CREATE PERMANENT CONSEQUENCES FOR ALL INVOLVED! Once the “rope” snaps, all are truly able to see the trauma inflicted upon it. Oh… and believe you me… the “rope” will eventually snap due to all of the tension being place upon it!
So why do this? The relationship is over. We get that. But is the life of your child worth so little you would use them as the tool by which you attempt to control and destroy another persons life? Think long and hard before you answer. Because it is easy to say “No. My child is worth everything to me.” Many even use their love for their children as their reason for playing this dangerous game of Tug-Of-War. But today is the day you begin to declare by your actions… “NO MORE TUG-OF-WAR!”
In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on March 21, 2013 at 4:11 am
“Why Did My Daddy Leave?” is a panel discussion designed to answer the questions on the hearts of many fatherless children… ‘Why did my father leave and why didn’t he come back?’
The difference in this discussion is, we are talking to the men… the fathers themselves!
The host and moderator of this tour is Ms. Torri J. Evans; the Founder & CEO of The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. with panelist Mr. Reco McDaniel, Mr. Yahanseh George, Mr. Daniel Blackman and an additional celebrity, politicians, and athletes panelist from each city.
“Why Did My Daddy Leave?” panel discussion tour is from March 29 – April 11, 2013 going to London, Lisbon, Paris, Brussels, Copenhagen, Oslo, Reykjavik
For more details go to http://www.tfgf.org Twitter: #WDMDLEurope
In Fatherless, Single Parenting, Youth Programs on March 15, 2013 at 2:52 pm
The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc.’s mission is to reunite fathers and their children by providing the resources and services that strengthen,support,and sustain the growth of family values and relationships.
Over 24 Million individuals in the United States who have grown up fatherless attaching a copious of negative stigmas to life’s journey. And with countless stories of struggle continuously emerging amid the fatherless epidemic, thanks to the generous giving of so many people, The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. is able to be the solution to this social issue. TFGF has been able to reunite 37 absent fathers with their children, provide resources and services that strengthen, support, and sustain a commitment to fatherhood to over 1300 children and instilling family values through our Husband & Wife Mentoring Teams to 167 children.
This is what they children are saying about the work we are doing with them
But there is so much work yet to be done and we need your help! Click link to support our Mission https://fundrazr.com/campaign…
Our programs and services:
*Commitment to Fatherhood
*Husband & Wife Mentor Teams
*Tutoring for Middle School Students
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In Fatherless, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on March 15, 2013 at 6:51 am
Way too often our childhood effects our adulthood and then our parenting. BUT… our children are not ok with the excuses!
In Uncategorized on September 13, 2012 at 10:29 pm
Teachers and pastors witness its devastating effects every day
What is it exactly Teachers and Pastors are witnessing on a daily basis? They are witnessing the effects of the Fatherless Generation!
Teachers and Pastors come face to face with the reality many of us clearly are in denial about. The truth of the Fatherless Generation is, the pain left by an absent father has gone beyond individual households, but has become deeply embedded into our culture and causing social catastrophe across all lines. You may beg to differ, but when the statistics prove otherwise we must begin to look from within and ask the hard questions. So, what happens when both boys and girls who need a wise father who encourages them and strengthens them, and provides what a mother cannot is left without their fathers presence?
The absence of biological fathers increases by 900% a daughter’s vulnerability 2 rape & sexual abuse. -(US Department of Justice)
Fatherless children are 92% more likely to dissolve their marriage when they get married! (Department of Justice)
72% of teenage murderers come from fatherless home. (Department of Justice)
85% of rapist come from a fatherless home. (Department of Justice)
And these are just a few.
The Fatherless are not only living without their father. But some are living in a place of emotional devastation. When will we as a society wake up and treat fatherlessness as the epidemic it clearly is?
I pray now is the time.