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No More Tug-Of-War

In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on August 30, 2013 at 6:20 pm

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Tug-Of-War has been taking place since ancient Egypt and it used to be an Olympic Sport. But what is the purpose of Tug-Of-War? According to Webster’s Dictionary Tug-of- War is a struggle for supremacy or control usually involving two antagonists; adversaries, opponents, or contenders.

Where am I going with this? How do two parents play “Tug-Of-War” with their child? I know things can get pretty complicated when two people decide to go their separate ways. And it can truly become UGLY when children are involved. BUT… I am puzzled by the idea that one parent feels the need to usurp authority… control over the other  through force by becoming their adversary and using the child as the “rope” by which they accomplish their goal. Yeah. It happens. Way too often.

In working with fatherless children through The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. I have encountered all aspects of fatherlessness. And we often see a child having no access to their biological father because of the inability of one parent to let go of their issues in order to allow the other a fair chance to build their own relationship.

Have you ever seen an actual tug-of-war competition? It is a brutal game where the opponents can get rope burn or even worse.  Cbsnews.com says, “It may be a childhood game, but tug-of-war injuries can be serious and lead to permanent consequences.” So what happens when the “rope” you are using is your child? You find yourself wrapping your hands around them, tying knots, or entangle yourself to them in a very dysfunctional way to secure your grip. BUT… when you wrap your hands around, tie knots, or even entangle yourself, you place all at risk to lose a finger, hand, or even dislocate parts of their body.  YOU CREATE PERMANENT CONSEQUENCES FOR ALL INVOLVED!  Once the “rope” snaps, all are truly able to see the trauma inflicted upon it. Oh… and believe you me… the “rope” will eventually snap due to all of the tension being place upon it!

So why do this? The relationship is over. We get that. But is the life of your child worth so little you would use them as the tool by which you attempt to control and destroy another persons life? Think long and hard before you answer. Because it is easy to say “No. My child is worth everything to me.” Many even use their love for their children as their reason for playing this dangerous game of Tug-Of-War. But today is the day you begin to declare by your actions… “NO MORE TUG-OF-WAR!”

“Why Did My Daddy Leave?” European Tour

In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on March 21, 2013 at 4:11 am

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“Why Did My Daddy Leave?” is a panel discussion designed to answer the questions on the hearts of many fatherless children… ‘Why did my father leave and why didn’t he come back?’

The difference in this discussion is, we are talking to the men… the fathers themselves!

The host and moderator of this tour is Ms. Torri J. Evans; the Founder & CEO of The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. with panelist Mr. Reco McDaniel, Mr. Yahanseh George, Mr. Daniel Blackman and an additional celebrity, politicians, and athletes panelist from each city.

“Why Did My Daddy Leave?” panel discussion tour is from March 29 – April 11, 2013 going to London, Lisbon, Paris, Brussels, Copenhagen, Oslo, Reykjavik

For more details go to http://www.tfgf.org Twitter: #WDMDLEurope

Giving Fatherless Children Hope

In Fatherless, Single Parenting, Youth Programs on March 15, 2013 at 2:52 pm

The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc.’s mission is to reunite fathers and their children by providing the resources and services that strengthen,support,and sustain the growth of family values and relationships.

Over 24 Million individuals in the United States who have grown up fatherless attaching a copious of negative stigmas to life’s journey. And with countless stories of struggle continuously emerging amid the fatherless epidemic, thanks to the generous giving of so many people, The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. is able to be the solution to this social issue. TFGF has been able to reunite 37 absent fathers with their children, provide resources and services that strengthen, support, and sustain a commitment to fatherhood to over 1300 children and instilling family values through our Husband & Wife Mentoring Teams to 167 children.

This is what they children are saying about the work we are doing with them 

But there is so much work yet to be done and we need your help!  Click link to support our Mission https://fundrazr.com/campaign…

Our programs and services:
*Commitment to Fatherhood
*Peer Groups
*Husband & Wife Mentor Teams
*Tutoring for Middle School Students

Make a donation NOW to The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. https://fundrazr.com/campaigns/9OOic

Parents… NO More Excuses

In Fatherless, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on March 15, 2013 at 6:51 am

Way too often our childhood effects our adulthood and then our parenting. BUT… our children are not ok with the excuses!

The Apprentice

In Career, Fatherless, Human Resources, Job Posting, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on September 27, 2012 at 6:36 am

Are you “The Apprentice” or will you hear the infamous words “You ARE Fired!”

“You’re Fired!”

Over the past 4 years I have worked very hard to build The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. off of my passion, but not so much of my skill set.  The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc. (FGF) is a nonprofit based in Atlanta, Georgia at the forefront of the fatherless epidemic who’s vision is to “Turn the Hearts of Fathers Back to Their Children.” But one thing I am clear about, my Chemistry back ground didn’t provide me with the skill set to take this organization to the global market envisioned.

For the last year I have been looking for my replacement as Executive Director to no avail. Therefore, I am looking for “The Apprentice” who will take my place as Executive Director through a unique process! Just like the popular television show, “The Apprentices” will go through a series of tasks such as day to day execution, project development, team building, curriculum planning and more to determine who will receive the job as Executive Director!

Do you think you have what it takes to run a nonprofit organization set to expand into National markets in the next 12 months and a global market in the next 3 years? Do you believe you have the creativity to run an organization as unique as The Fatherless Generation Foundation Inc? Better yet… can YOU think outside of the box?

If you are saying yes to at least 2 of the questions, send your resume and cover letter to thefatherlessgeneration@gmail.com for further instructions.

Do you have what it takes to put me out of my job?

The Occupy Movement has Hit The Boys & Girls Club

In Fatherless, Lifestyle, Single Parenting, Uncategorized, Youth Programs on September 20, 2012 at 8:34 pm

The Occupy Movement has hit The Boys & Girls Club!!!

Night before as I prepare for bed, I couldn’t help but to have a HUGE smile on my face.  Monday was intended to be our first day back at The Boys & Girls Clubs with FGF Peer Groups.  But, when I walked in the door and grab my list… only 3 kids seemed to qualify for FGF Peer Groups. I was unsure of what to make of it. As I walked into the club, kids from ALL age groups ran up to me and hugged me. But after the joyous greeting they had a serious issue with me. They were all yelling at once… “Ms. Torri, why aren’t we able to be in your group. THAT ISN’T FAIR!” I let them know it was not my decision to only allow 3rd-5th graders this quarter. It was on the Education Director.

Before I knew it there were 15 girls in the Education Director’s office waiting on her. As soon as she walked in they started yelling out their complaint. Lets just say… the Education Director didn’t appreciate it and put them all out of her office with the quickness!  They all left with their heads low, but they were determined and that would not be the end of the issue.

While hanging out with them in the Learning Center they were still expressing their complaint loud and clear. One girl said… “I have been with you for 2 years. What is up with that Ms. Torri?” I told them I had not control over it. They would have to figure out how to overcome the obstacle or deal with it until next semester.

I walked away and went into another room. By the time I had come back, this group of 6th-7th grade girls had huddled and put a strategic plan in place. They sent one person in to represent their issues to the Executive Director over the entire club. They went straight to the TOP! By the time they had come out… the Executive Director had given me clearance to do what I wanted concerning the Peer Group.

Immediately I got with the Education Director and we made an extreme compromise. We would host 3rd-5th and 6th-8th graders at the same time in a different room. 2 groups at one time!

No doubt I compromised so the kids could have their Peer Groups. I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do!